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Am I neurodivergent? 7 Steps for self-reflection and understanding.

At Grace, we understand that every person we interact with, whether it's through conversation, meetings, or work, is unique and displays different characteristics. These differences can be attributed to variations in the brain, which result in some individuals being referred to as neurodiverse or neurodivergent while others are referred to as neurotypical. It's worth noting that neurotypical people are also different from each other, just like those who are neurodiverse. 

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Samantha Lavender, our Neurodiversity Advice Manager, says, 'Diversity is what makes the human race thrive, and we must embrace our differences. However, being neurodiverse can be challenging. It may make it difficult to fit in socially, behave in expected ways, or adapt to changes easily. But don't worry- you're not alone.' 

Here are 7 steps you can explore if you suspect you might be neurodivergent: 

1. Self-Reflection: Reflect on your experiences and behaviours. Many neurodivergent individuals have different experiences, but there are some commonalities such as: 

  • Social communication difficulties - can include issues with eye contact and interpreting body language. 

  • Speech and language challenges, like stuttering and repetition. 

  • You may experience difficulties related to focus, reading, comprehension, and executive functioning, which includes important skills such as working memory, flexible thinking, and self-control. 

  • Sensitivity or unusual insensitivity to light, sound, heat, cold, pressure, crowds, and other stimuli. 

  • Unexpected physical behaviours include rocking, tics, blurting things out, and shouting out at unexpected times. 

  • Inability to be flexible, adapt or change interests based on age or situation. 

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2. Research: Learn more about different neurodivergent conditions, their symptoms, and common experiences. Websites, books, and reputable online resources can provide valuable information.  There are widely available tests and questionnaires that feed into diagnostic processes that you can use to ascertain whether you have characteristics, for example the AQ-10 for Autism screening and ASRS-v1.1 for ADHD screening. 

3. Seek professional help: Consider seeking an assessment from a qualified healthcare professional, such as a psychologist, psychiatrist, or neurologist. They can assess your symptoms, behaviours, and experiences to determine if you meet the criteria for a specific neurodivergent condition.  You may be entitled to get access to a diagnosis through the NHS Right to Choose program. 

4. Share experiences: Connecting with others who share similar experiences is more accessible through online forums, support groups, and social media. These tools can provide valuable resources for learning about neurodiversity and sharing experiences. 

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5. Keep a diary: Keeping a diary can help you track your experiences, emotions, and behaviours over time, providing valuable insights into patterns and trends that may indicate neurodivergence. 

6. Consider personal history: Reflect on your childhood experiences, school performance, relationships, and work experiences. Notice if there have been consistent patterns or challenges that may indicate neurodivergence. Whilst neurodivergence is not hereditary, if you have a parent who is neurodivergent you are more likely to be yourself. 

7. Talk about it: Talk to trusted friends or family members about your experiences and observations. They may provide valuable insights that you hadn't considered, that's the beauty of all being different!  

It's important to understand that neurodivergence is not a one-size-fits-all concept. The experiences and symptoms of neurodivergent individuals can vary greatly. Therefore, approach neurodiversity with an open mind. If you suspect you may be neurodivergent, seeking support and understanding can help you better understand yourself and navigate the world more effectively. 

Our support 

At Grace our expert team of Neurodiversity Advisers provides advice and support on all areas of neurodiversity, from help with understanding conditions and managing symptoms, to accessing support, services and funding. If you, your organisation or anyone you are close to is looking for support, get in touch. 


Grace Consulting are the UK’s founding providers of expert independent advice on elderly care advice, special needs advice and neurodiversity advice. 

Independence and client wellbeing are at the heart of everything we do. We listen, reassure and advise you on how to move forwards and find the best possible solutions for your unique life challenges. 


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